Haven’t we all collided at some point in our lives? In a car accident, with a stranger walking out the door as you walk in, a collision of minds — a true brainstorming session where creativity flows and new ideas surface, or maybe a collision between heart and mind — feelings you are uncertain about acting on? At some point, we have all experienced some type of collision.
If you already read my About section you probably realize that my most recent collision resulted in this blog, but there is more to that story... After a series of fortunate and unfortunate events last year — the Bumble date and other relationships that didn’t work out, family moving to another state, meeting an inspirational character, and a drunken tumble that resulted in a concussion — I felt compelled to take a good, hard look at my life. I wasn’t doing what I wanted to be doing and wasn’t becoming who I wanted to be. Stuck in the grind, adopting unhealthy coping mechanisms along the way. Sound familiar?
I did not pioneer this line of thinking — many of us feel stuck, wishing we had different jobs, better relationships, more time, more energy, more money, more happiness, more peace, more wonder. I also know that many of us struggle to do anything about these desires because we cannot get past our fears, our insecurities or our comfort zones. Maybe some of us aren't even aware that our fears, insecurities and comforts keep us in our unhappy places. When we can develop that awareness, we can begin to change. But how? How can we develop this awareness?
We can start through the practice of mindfulness. Mindfulness practice can heighten our moment-to-moment awareness, making it easier to recognize the negative parts of ourselves just as we recognize the positive. The more we practice, the more we learn to accept both the negative and positive and see ourselves as whole beings, worthy of the lives we desire.
What do you want to change? What collisions do you experience? Take inventory of it all. Challenge it all. Accept it all. Trust it all. Because these collisions happen for a reason and can lead us to hidden treasures within ourselves.
In her book Big Magic, Elizabeth Gilbert writes:
Creativity is sacred, and it is not sacred.
We make matters enormously, and it doesn’t matter at all.
We toil alone, and we are accompanied by spirits.
We are terrified, and we are brave.
Art is a crushing chore, and a wonderful privilege.
Only when we are at our most playful can divinity get serious with us.
Make space for all these paradoxes to be equally true inside your soul, and I promise — you can make anything.
So take your life, with all of its negative and positive paradoxes (or, as I call them, collisions), and make it whatever you want it to be. Only you know how to find the treasures that lie deep within your soul and live the life that you deserve and desire.
Let it bake,